You know that Sunday feeling, right?

We leave church inspired by and filled with  Truth, encouragement and passion on Sundays … and somewhere along the course of the day and week, we often lose that Sunday feeling. 

The Monday After {the Sunday Sermon} is our attempt to carry the Sunday message into Monday mornings by walking together and sharing how what we’ve heard on Sunday morning is making a difference in our Mondays, our weeks, our lives. Each Monday, a voice from the pews will give personal perspective to the words we soaked in on Sunday. Because of your generosity, lives are being changed by God’s grace, and we’re able to share these stories with you here!

The Monday After Sunday, June 9 , 2013: Enemies of the Heart: Defusing Your Anger {click HERE to listen!}

By Sheryll Belonga

Last week when I saw that the upcoming message would be on anger I anxiously awaited hearing what God would say to me.  As I watched the skit I thought to myself, “None of those people sound like me.”  The examples that they used, although real, did not fit my life and my behavior.  Normally when my “better-than-you-are” attitude appears, I know I need to look in the mirror.  I asked God to show me my true self.

When I was growing up, anger appeared in the form of yelling and grabbing or pushing and silence.  Communication was not something my family did well.  I tried to avoid the anger they displayed by trying to always do what I was told.  I figured the best way to stay away from trouble was to avoid it.

The problem with avoiding things is that you never really deal with those issues.  I figured that if I pretended it away and went into my world of rainbows and butterflies, the feelings would disappear.  Instead it became like a pimple and no matter how much I covered it up, it was still there until I dealt with it.

In my life as an adult, anger caused me to blow up while at work.  The situation required the assistance of security team.  Yes, they were called for me in case I didn’t leave the building.  I now know that my anger was a result of hurt and frustration that had  been building day after day.  My practice of ignoring it and not dealing with it eventually caused me to explode.

In his message, Pastor Joe gave what I will call a “Five-Step Program for Anger Deliverance.”  He said that anger required a response.  If we allow anger to just sit and fester it will turn into something ugly.  It is usually in the moment of ugliness that we either verbally or physically act out.  In my job situation it was both.  The deliverance steps:

  1. Don’t deny your anger.  Anger is a normal human reaction even for us Christians.
  2. Delay your anger.  Stop and calm down and, if necessary, change your environment.
  3. Define your anger.  Anger is a secondary emotion.  You need to determine its cause, which could be hurt, frustration or fear.  It may even be some combination of the three.
  4. Defuse your anger. Deal with it.  Don’t just set it aside and allow it to eventually consume you.
  5. Deliver it to God. Pastor Joe mentioned this step could have been number one but I think it is right where it should be.  If we are all honest with ourselves, prayer is not the first thing on our minds when we are angry.  Sometimes we want to be angry, which is where the steps are helpful.  I believe that going through the steps will draw us closer to God because we begin to desire peace; we begin to desire deliverance.

Pastor Joe started the message with scripture from Ephesians that he felt we should hide in our hearts, so I will leave you with that verse.  I pray you, like me, will come to realize that being angry is okay but when we allow it to cause us to react verses respond we lose the victory over it.

“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.”  Ephesians 4:26-27

Sheryll Belonga is wife to Jurrell and homeschooling mom to their three great boys. Her hearts desire is to glorify God in all she says and does in spite of life’s daily happenings.

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